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Care Givers thread
« on: May 29, 2014, 09:32:38 pm »
I've debated starting this thread for some time. I read every post on every board, and I see mentions of care giving all over the forestry forum. This will give us a common place to swap information that may be of use to others, whether you just see after mom in the nursing home or have a special needs child. Being a care giver can be one of the most demanding jobs one can imagine, but can also be very rewarding. As for me, I have been a full-time 24/7 caregiver for my handicapped wife for 15 years. Any help I can pass on to others will be forthcoming. I maintain a large fleet of mobility devices, lifts, kitchen aids, ramps, you name it, anything that makes life a little easier, I probably am familiar with.
It seems that all threads eventually turn to food, so I'll go ahead and get that over with. Anybody on blood thinner, stay away from leafy green veggies. They are loaded with a coagulant compound that counteracts most blood thinner drugs. Dang good excuse reason to forgo the spinach and turnip greens..
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« Reply #1 on: May 29, 2014, 09:37:33 pm »
We plan on getting old in our house. We have all 3 foot doors. A walk in shower, a high toilet,no overhead cabinets,just draws. Open a draw and look down into it.Wife been in a wheelchair,3-4 times. It sure does help that she can get around in the house. Everything is on one floor.
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« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2014, 12:48:03 am »
Looked after my FIL till he passed he was in a wheelchair since my wife was about 6 yrs old she cared for him all her life pretty much.Now our health is bad so we take turns looking after one another I have diabeties and a nagging heart condition she has rheumatoid arthritis and a very painfull condition called pancreatitus which i didnt even know existed
but were managing alright we own qnd operate what was her father live bait and rock shop business and i still run my sawmill and skidder and almost forgot caregiving is a big part of our lives.Thanks for starting this thread.
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« Reply #3 on: May 30, 2014, 09:59:12 am »
It is a very demanding task. My wife's needs are increasing due spinal stinosis, type two diabetes and advancing age. She is also a cancer survivor. A few times I have felt like I was at the end of my endurance with no one to turn to. Will be good to get some ideas and have the opportunity to share support.
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« Reply #4 on: May 30, 2014, 12:35:01 pm »
Thanks for starting this pinneywoods now I know not to eat the green stuff. when I was 12 or 13 I had to  help take of my grandpa and it can be a lot of work
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« Reply #5 on: May 31, 2014, 12:21:33 am »
My wife takes care of her aunts financial and health affairs. Her aunt is  in a nursing home and it seems my wife is running 3-4 days a week taking care of her aunts things.
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« Reply #6 on: May 31, 2014, 11:34:40 am »
My wife takes care of her aunts financial and health affairs. Her aunt is  in a nursing home and it seems my wife is running 3-4 days a week taking care of her aunts things.
Yeah, there is a whole lot more to caregiving than feed um and tuck them in..Seems like something new just about every day...and the honey-do lists grow by leaps and bounds..
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Re: Care Givers thread
« Reply #7 on: May 31, 2014, 02:16:30 pm »
I've debated starting this thread for some time. I read every post on every board, and I see mentions of care giving all over the forestry forum. This will give us a common place to swap information that may be of use to others, whether you just see after mom in the nursing home or have a special needs child. Being a care giver can be one of the most demanding jobs one can imagine, but can also be very rewarding. As for me, I have been a full-time 24/7 caregiver for my handicapped wife for 15 years. Any help I can pass on to others will be forthcoming. I maintain a large fleet of mobility devices, lifts, kitchen aids, ramps, you name it, anything that makes life a little easier, I probably am familiar with.
It seems that all threads eventually turn to food, so I'll go ahead and get that over with. Anybody on blood thinner, stay away from leafy green veggies. They are loaded with a coagulant compound that counteracts most blood thinner drugs. Dang good excuse reason to forgo the spinach and turnip greens..

Great idea to start a thread Piney. Caregivers, especially of family members, are a unique group. My wife and I took care of my Dad for a year before cancer took him and then my Mom for 15 years after. Last 2 were dealing with her dementia which had it's moments. It's been 9 years since she passed and my wife and I still miss both of them a lot. As difficult as it was at times, we would do it again in a heart beat.

You folks who are caretakers, be very sure to take care of yourself as well. Get someone to "spell" you once in a while, and always know you are doing a very good thing... even if your loved one can't understand sometimes.
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Re: Care Givers thread
« Reply #8 on: June 01, 2014, 08:05:56 am »
I have the privilege of seeing after my 89 year old mother-in-law. My late wife was an only child and I was chosen as her mother's care giver. At the present I only have to take her to Dr appointments and the grocery store. Her eye sight is failing, so the future is uncertain for her.   
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« Reply #9 on: June 02, 2014, 12:02:56 am »
How timely!!  I was searching for a "good way" to bring this subject up. I was sure I wasn't the only one. My wife and I are taking care of my Mom and Dad...mostly Dad. He's headed toward 92, and on oxygen full time now, and pretty much bedridden. We've set up a hospital bed in their living room and he spends the majority of the day there. His mind goes from time to time... sometimes so sharp it's amazing. He can still tell you the name of every  horse he's owned in the past 90 years... no kidding!  My wife, God bless her, is amazing with him! They butted heads many times since we've been married, but she's the one he calls for is something is wrong. She's amazing with him and I can't even begin to think of where I'd be without her here. I moved back "home" here to the ranch in '96 and promised Mom and Dad that I'd make sure they could stay as long as they want, and they both want to die right here, so that's what we're steering for. I think it's the least we can do for them.  However, I have 2 older sisters that are like a couple of buzzards, circling for the settlement....how sad. At any rate, thank you Piney, for starting this.... just knowing there are others that are doing this, helps....and it helps to get a bit of it off my chest too.
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« Reply #10 on: June 02, 2014, 07:32:42 am »
Buzzards,yep,my family too. ::)  My wife and I took care of my Mother. My wife does not work,so she was able to take care of her. She passed away at her home. We only did it for about 6 months. That was a long 6 months. Mom has alot of bad days towards the end. Not knowing us and thinking we was "bad people". We was just about home bound for that time frame.
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« Reply #11 on: June 02, 2014, 07:47:56 am »
This thread touches my heart.  Pat and I have been continual caregivers in one way or the other since 1995.  Little did we realize when I retired in 1994 that life could make such abrupt changes.
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« Reply #12 on: June 02, 2014, 09:36:36 am »
Sawguy21, I know the feeling. If you don't sometimes feel like you are at the end of your rope, you really have a problem. It really hit me hard. Went to bed looking forward to retirement with a happy, healthy vibrant mate, woke up the next morning a caregiver for life. When you feel like you just can't go on, ask yourself one simple question, "can I handle this for just one more day ? " OK, one more day. Get up tomorrow morning and ask the same question. In other words, take it one day at a time..I have a sister who is a psychiatric nurse, spends all day every day dealing with difficult, dis-abled, depressed people. She has been a real blessing for me. Dealing with the depression that almost always occurs can be even more demanding than caring for the physical needs. Been there, done that fairly successfully, hope I can pass on some of the means of coping...
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« Reply #13 on: June 02, 2014, 11:31:01 pm »
I can tell you one thing for sure it can be a real challenge to care for others but there no more satisfying feeling of accomplishment when  its over and you know you did all you could to ease someone elses pain and or suffering by being there for them and the rest of your family.
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« Reply #14 on: June 11, 2014, 11:07:02 pm »
Care giving has it's dangers, but you have to learn to laugh..Yesterday, I was on the front porch down on my knees re-potting some flowers for the wife. She cam barreling down the ramp in her power chair, and ran completely over my leg just below the knee. I got a hurting sore leg, an over extended ankle, and one hand jammed into a pot of prickly pear cactus.  :o
Them Dang electric power chairs are HEAVY..
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« Reply #15 on: June 11, 2014, 11:36:14 pm »
Don't sweat the small stuff. Most problems eventually become small stuff. Couple of examples.
She loves to get outside and ride around in the yard on her power chair. Big problem is MUD. Then up the ramp and into the house, tracking mud all over the floor. As a throwback to when she used to yell at me to wipe the mud off my feet before I come inside, I yell at her to wipe the mud off your wheels.  :-\  Of course, she can't, I clean up the mud  and it has become a private joke between us.
Then there is the modern version of the gordian knot. A couple of fairly extensive braces and a pair of orthopedic shoes, all with industrial strength velcro fasteners. All get thrown in a pile at bedtime. Next morning, there is no way she can un-tangle the mess, so I just laugh about it, pull them pieces of 4 inch velcro apart, and apply everything.
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« Reply #16 on: June 12, 2014, 08:57:43 am »
thanks for this thread, my wifes grandmother is nearing the final stages of althimers / demensia. she and her mother are going to look into a home that deals with those problems specifically tomorrow.
I know of the many ordeals that come from caregiving, and specifically I see the wear and tear on my mother in law as she has had to care for her mother full time for awhile now. the whole caregiver thing has its ups and downs with tears of laughter to tears of sadness in each day. the womans mind is basically gone and her husband is unable to help much with her care. his mind is perfect but his body is failing. he is 87ish. veteran of the Korean war and a joy to visit with. the man ran a sawmill and logged for most of his life. he just cant hear and you have to holler to talk with him. the saddest part is the two have been married since they were pups and I am afraid when she goes he will follow quickly.

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« Reply #17 on: June 12, 2014, 11:02:56 pm »
ely, +1 on the wear and tear on the caregiver. It's very important to take care of the caregiver as well as the patient. Anyone who works at it 24/7 without a break is sooner or later headed for trouble, both physically and emotionally. I have been fortunate in having a lot of excellent advice from some people who knew what they were talking about. A caregiver needs to get out and away from it on a regular basis. Something as simple as a trip to an old fashioned barber shop can make a lot of difference. When I started this thread, what I hoped was that maybe there would be an exchange of ideas to help care for the caregiver as well as a patient..
Learn to laugh, btw, I'm still picking cactus spines out of my hand, it ain't very funny  ;D
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« Reply #18 on: June 13, 2014, 03:50:02 am »
Lots of good info if you google Caregiver Oxygen Mask
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« Reply #19 on: June 13, 2014, 09:45:32 am »
How timely!!  I was searching for a "good way" to bring this subject up. I was sure I wasn't the only one. My wife and I are taking care of my Mom and Dad...mostly Dad. He's headed toward 92, and on oxygen full time now, and pretty much bedridden. We've set up a hospital bed in their living room and he spends the majority of the day there. His mind goes from time to time... sometimes so sharp it's amazing. He can still tell you the name of every  horse he's owned in the past 90 years... no kidding!  My wife, God bless her, is amazing with him! They butted heads many times since we've been married, but she's the one he calls for is something is wrong. She's amazing with him and I can't even begin to think of where I'd be without her here. I moved back "home" here to the ranch in '96 and promised Mom and Dad that I'd make sure they could stay as long as they want, and they both want to die right here, so that's what we're steering for. I think it's the least we can do for them.  However, I have 2 older sisters that are like a couple of buzzards, circling for the settlement....how sad. At any rate, thank you Piney, for starting this.... just knowing there are others that are doing this, helps....and it helps to get a bit of it off my chest too.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you all.
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John, you'r situation sounds like mine.  My wife does most of the caring for my dad.  She is the best. I don't see how she does it handling my dad , me and my two boy;s.   You are blessed to have such great wife.  God bless and good luck.