Bob
I agree with your management of uneven aged stands. That's how most stands are managed here in the east. Essentially, its all even aged management, just that your size of stand is a lot smaller. Then you blend it together to get a representative of all diameter classes. The classic "J" curve is pretty hard to accomplish with most types of private ownership.
The way I use thinning is to use a BA gauge and to look up. The gauge tells me the stocking level, the crowns tell me which trees need thinned. Sounds like we all do it pretty much the same way.
For those still playing along, a BA gauge of 10 can be made with the ratio of 1:33. A 1" target at the end of 33" will give you a BA factor of 10. If you have a quarter and your arm is 33", then you're in luck. Point sampling makes it that you don't have to measure plot size. If the tree is larger than the target, you count it. If its smaller, you don't.